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Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 13, 2005, 12:02:15 am

Just got this idea from lorri.


Do you believe you can stay on friendly terms with an ex and has anyone?

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: smurfboy on October 13, 2005, 12:17:58 am
My last partner lives in Lincoln so we don't really see each other, but I think we could have stayed friends. Mind you, we weren't together long - I think it's probably more difficult the longer you're together.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 13, 2005, 12:20:49 am
I had a 3 year relationship, a 6 month, a 4 year, then a 14 yr all in that order and I still see the 6 month one when i am out and we get on ok.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: lorri on October 13, 2005, 12:23:11 am
one i cant stand the sight of and we just recoil and hiss on sight lol another i still go for a drink and a catch up with about twice a year ( think he is closet gay just does not realise lol)  and two are sadly no longer with us but we were friends until then
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 13, 2005, 12:23:34 am
Forgot to add that the 3 yr one was really my first true  love and he dumped me and i never seen him since. The 4 yr one i've never seen since i dumped him and wish he was dead.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: lorri on October 13, 2005, 12:26:50 am
i forgot one lol he lives away and always did so not seen him since the split, but he did phone about 3 months after we split and made small talk for 5 mins before admiting only reason he rang was because he had had a dream i had and died and just wanted to check i was ok lol
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 13, 2005, 12:27:20 am
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: smurfboy on October 13, 2005, 12:27:35 am
I haven't seen my first love in years. I got dumped on from a great height, which is probably why I'm an unemotional slut now
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 13, 2005, 12:28:35 am
Yes being dumped on does harden you.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: lorri on October 13, 2005, 12:29:43 am
my friend was dumped by the love of her life over the weekend.......im still wringing out my shoulder pads lol
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 13, 2005, 12:30:26 am
had she been with him long?
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: lorri on October 13, 2005, 12:31:51 am

about 6 months but was first one that she really thought was "the one "  nshe is devestated poor thing


 

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 13, 2005, 12:32:17 am
I've had shoes longer than that.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: lorri on October 13, 2005, 12:34:19 am
hee hee yep you and me both......im never sure if its my age or cynical outlook that makes me seem heartless lol
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 13, 2005, 12:42:56 am

I wouldn't cry over a 6 months relationship anymore.

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: lorri on October 13, 2005, 12:51:32 am

i agree with you but she is besotted   im trying to train her otherwise lol


 

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Post by: nightowl17 on October 13, 2005, 01:52:59 am
why would anyone stay friendly with a ex?
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: oldspice on October 13, 2005, 07:47:32 am

My exes are too long ago! However, one of them is a close friend of my older sister and I see him about once every five years. I was 19 and had known him since I was six years old. He was 32. I was on the re-bound from a three year 'first love' relationship and he imagined himself in love with me.


After we split he married, then divorced. I saw him last Christmas. he's now 60 years old!!!! My kids thought it was really funny that I used to go out with out "old man".

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: goldencup on October 13, 2005, 08:40:18 am
I already answered this in another thread but I'm friendly with lots of my exes and they're all from a really long time ago.  My junior school boyfriend and I email regularly after I spotted him on television and got in touch.   
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: chocolate chick on October 13, 2005, 10:17:50 am
I haven't really had a lot of ex's. But 'my first love' broke my heart.
We was together 2 years, from the age of 16 to 18. He cheated on me and
I was heartbroken. He said he wanted to stay friends and I agreed
because I didn't want to let him go and thought he would come back to
me. But you guessed it, he even did. So I spent about a year not dating
anyone else, waiting for him. I realised this was not good for me.



He is now totally out of my life, I am engaged to my lovely man and have never been happier.



So in my case, no, it's not a good idea to stay friends with an ex.


Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: Nikkers on October 13, 2005, 02:19:08 pm
Aaw Chocolate chick! glad u found happiness with someone nice! I was with someone for a year when I was sixteen and was completely heartbroken when he dumped me! I've been single since...and I'm now 22!!
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: kevvosa on October 13, 2005, 02:34:55 pm
I am not friendly with my ex. I think once you have split up, that's
it, time to move on. I suppose it depends on what terms you split up
on. If it's a case of cheating, arguing etc then dont keep in contact.



But if you mutually agree to end it because you've grown apart, then maybe it will work.


Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: Hello Sweetie on October 14, 2005, 07:01:33 pm
I'm friends with my ex husband, we met at 16, got
married at 19 and divorced 13 years later. It was
pretty unpleasant at the time but we have two
daughters so we were never going to lose contact
and we get on well now. I'm great friends with the
first boyfriend I had after my divorce - I read at his
wedding to the girl he was two-timing me with and I
regularly go and stay with them. I'm also still good
friends with the boyfriend I had after him. My current
boyfriend does find this a bit weird....
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: nightowl17 on October 14, 2005, 08:15:26 pm
My exes ring me up all the time cos they all want to get back with me now that I am a size 8. Shame they all dumped me when I was a size 18.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: on October 14, 2005, 08:16:54 pm
YOU an 8!? 
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: nightowl17 on October 14, 2005, 08:19:19 pm
I have an eating disorder where I stick my fingers down my throat and vomit after meals.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: smurfboy on October 14, 2005, 08:41:19 pm

My friend is best friends with his ex-wife. If you think that sounds remarkable, they split up because he came out as gay!


Proof it can work out eh? And look at Annie Lennox and Dave Stewart - or George Hamilton and Alana Stewart!

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: lemoneye on October 15, 2005, 10:13:57 am

In my experience, staying friends with "proper" exes is impossible. Staying friends with people you have had brief "flings" with is easier - but if there has been any long term or deep commitment or trust broken etc then its too hard

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 15, 2005, 03:23:44 pm
I fully agree with lemoneye.
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Post by: Nikkers on October 15, 2005, 06:11:03 pm
this is all getting a bit Jerry Springer
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Post by: loulou on October 15, 2005, 10:16:15 pm
If we were on Jerry Springer we would have shot our exes. If we were on Ricki Lake we would be saying "Look at me now, look what you lost".
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: Forth Bridges on October 15, 2005, 10:21:46 pm

I can see it rigjt now me, loulou, bounty, oldspice, golden cup, cho, cick, minty on JERRY:

we all had a affiar while having a master plan to destroy the UK monachay while trying to murder each other!

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: kevvosa on October 15, 2005, 10:29:34 pm

Quote from: loulou
If we were on Ricki Lake we would be saying "Look at me now, look what you lost".






Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 15, 2005, 11:21:31 pm
623 you are funny but you missed out paulham
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: on October 15, 2005, 11:23:09 pm
No he didn't. The desire to ever be on any of these shows should preclude you from ever being allowed.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 15, 2005, 11:24:22 pm
Say again in easy peasy words.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: Forth Bridges on October 16, 2005, 12:06:36 am
Quote from: 623058

I can see it rigjt now me, loulou, bounty, oldspice, golden cup, cho, cick, minty on JERRY:

we all had a affiar while having a master plan to destroy the UK monachay while trying to murder each other!



 


adn SMUFTY

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: sillyyank03 on October 21, 2005, 08:53:25 pm

I think you can be friends with your ex, at least initially. I just got of a 2 year relationship with someone and we still pretty much talk every other day about things in general. Then again, we broke up due to the different directions we were each planning to go towards, plus he's about 2 and a half hours away at the moment and neither of us has time to take off for weekends and such. So, we mutually ended it and everything seems cool at the moment.

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 12:59:43 am

Quote from: nightowl17
I have an eating disorder where I stick my fingers down my throat and vomit after meals.


You will wreck your teeth doing that. The acid that comes up from the stomach rots the enamel on teeth. Anyway nightowl I thought you said you were a size 8. surely you don't want to be thinner.

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: goldencup on October 22, 2005, 01:01:50 am
Quote from: loulou

Quote from: nightowl17
I have an eating disorder where I stick my fingers down my throat and vomit after meals.


You will wreck your teeth doing that. The acid that comes up from the stomach rots the enamel on teeth. Anyway nightowl I thought you said you were a size 8. surely you don't want to be thinner.



Yes I was horrified when I read that.  Perhaps Nightowl should consider seeing her doctor? 

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: goldencup on October 22, 2005, 01:02:32 am

Quote from: loulou
Say again in easy peasy words.


You haven't obliged yet Paulham 

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 01:04:03 am
Perhaps he didn't know what he was saying either.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: goldencup on October 22, 2005, 01:09:01 am
  I'm sure he did.  It was the Scottish accent that confused me.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 01:09:50 am
I'll get him a Oxford dictionary for Xmas.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: nightowl17 on October 22, 2005, 01:28:44 am
You are right I am a size 8 and I should see the doctor but I think at the moment it is stress related.  I have heard that there has been talent scouts at some of our gigs and the nerves have got a hold on me. 
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Post by: smurfboy on October 22, 2005, 02:30:45 pm
Gigs? Are you a singist?
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 02:39:13 pm
smurfy didn't you see where nightowl told us she was a singer called Gloria Chardonnay? She wanted to go on X Factor but thought Simon cowell would tell her to ditch her group or backing singers whatever they were.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: smurfboy on October 22, 2005, 03:13:24 pm
I must have been off that day. I went on X-Factor and Simon Cowell told me I was the greatest singer he'd ever heard. But I said 'I'm sorry, I wouldn't waste my time on some tinpot talent show!' and flounced out.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 03:32:44 pm
And then you flounced on to Pop Idol?
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: smurfboy on October 22, 2005, 03:39:52 pm

Don't be silly!


It's finished.

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 03:42:38 pm
So have you done the rounds  Opportunity Knocks, New Faces, Stars in their Eyes??
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Post by: smurfboy on October 22, 2005, 03:47:18 pm
Yes. Marti Caine told me I was the greatest talent she had ever seen. Nina Myskow cried.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 03:49:31 pm
Was Nina wearing pink?
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Post by: smurfboy on October 22, 2005, 03:51:05 pm

Yes - a sort of fuschia shade.

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 03:53:23 pm
thought so.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 03:58:57 pm
Did you suffer from 'negative body language' back then?
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: smurfboy on October 22, 2005, 04:38:42 pm
no, but i did have a touch of impatigo.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 04:44:53 pm
Isn't that when you have scabs on your face?
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: oldspice on October 22, 2005, 06:40:07 pm
That Nina was deadly. Simon Cowell is a pussycat by comparison.Some of those old talent shows were so funny. People doing strange things with their shoulder blades, old men playing spoons, singing dogs, fire eaters and of course Lena Zavaroli.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 11:53:23 pm
Poor Lena Zavaroni died. Wasn't she anorexic? That other one doesn't appear much on tv now...erm Bonnie Langford. I think she was Wayne Sleeps friend.
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Post by: loulou on October 22, 2005, 11:55:48 pm


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Post by: Forth Bridges on October 23, 2005, 12:19:16 am

who is she?


anwers on a post card to the uselay address adn first person out of the hat wins this faboulis coffice / maker from 1978!

Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 23, 2005, 12:20:12 am
It's Lena Zavaroni
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Post by: Forth Bridges on October 23, 2005, 12:29:44 am
well have to put that anwers on a post card to teh uslay address if you want to win that lovly tea/coffe maker from 1978!
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Post by: loulou on October 23, 2005, 12:30:55 am
does it work?
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Post by: Forth Bridges on October 23, 2005, 12:32:04 am
of course al our prives are in working order! ( we are not responable fro it while in transit! )
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Post by: loulou on October 23, 2005, 12:33:24 am
I would like to donate my prize to charity.
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Post by: Forth Bridges on October 23, 2005, 12:39:37 am

You haven't win yet! you nam ehasn't come out ot the hat

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Post by: loulou on October 23, 2005, 12:41:50 am
ok i withdraw my  entry
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Post by: Forth Bridges on October 23, 2005, 12:43:30 am
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Post by: loulou on October 23, 2005, 12:45:02 am
Paulham does that.
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Post by: Forth Bridges on October 23, 2005, 12:47:51 am
so yuo have seen him? where
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Post by: loulou on October 23, 2005, 12:50:20 am
i mean that face thing
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Post by: loulou on October 23, 2005, 12:50:39 am


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Post by: nightowl17 on October 23, 2005, 12:05:26 pm
That's a pretty little girl Loulou.
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Post by: oldspice on October 23, 2005, 12:57:19 pm
I hope she is at peace where she is now.
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Post by: on October 23, 2005, 01:05:03 pm

Yes, a tragic life.  I had a crush on her when I was about 10.


I was sad when she died. God bless her.

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Post by: loulou on October 23, 2005, 01:18:43 pm
I wanted to post a pic of her when she was older to show how pretty she was but every pic I find of her she looks so ill.
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Post by: smurfboy on October 23, 2005, 04:11:14 pm
I hate being ill. It makes me feel so... ill.
Title: Friendly with exes or not?
Post by: loulou on October 23, 2005, 04:22:11 pm
Yes but better to be ill than dead..